The Three C’s of Addiction

The Three C’s of Addiction

Characteristics of Addiction: The Three C’s

Regardless of how the addiction may present itself, it almost certainly looks the same – whether the addiction is a chemical dependence such as drugs or alcohol, or a behavior such as masturbation, shopping, cybersex or gaming – it almost always has the following characteristics, also known as the three C’s.

  • Compulsive usage.
  • Loss of Control.
  • and Continued use despite negative consequences.

Below we will take a look at these three characteristics of addiction.

Compulsive Usage

The word compulsive is an adjective often used to describe people who engage in risky and harmful behavior beyond their control. As an example, a compulsive liar would be someone who has little or absolutely no control over the lies they tell. A compulsive gambler would be someone who cannot help but sit down when they walk past a poker table. Often the person with compulsive tendencies would have very little control over their actions, and so it is with addiction.

I remember when I was an addict. It was a strange feeling, wanting to quit, and perhaps setting out with the best of intentions to walk to the corner shop, only to find oneself redirected by an unknown force. Before you knew it you would be in the bottle store or at the dealer.

According to A.W. Blume (2005) this compulsive use often has 3 elements. Reinforcement, craving and habit.

When the substance user first picks up his drug and experiences relief from stress or physical pain – or the action is rewarded by the pleasure centers of the brain – reinforcement occurs. This reinforcement occurs every time the user engages in this behavior. Over time tolerance may develop and larger or more concentrated doses will be required to produce the same effects.

Over time the chemical balance of the brain is altered and the user will experience craving, a strong and often intense signal sent by the brain to the body to signal that the substance or behavior is needed. The brain is essentially telling the body that it needs the substance for survival.

Psychological or physical withdrawal symptoms can occur if the craving is not fed. Withdrawals are often very unpleasant symptoms that are caused when the drug(s) or behavior is withheld. This could be psychological, eg. anxiety or depression, or physical such as muscle fatigue, pain or insomnia.

The third element, habit, is often the result of deeply ingrained patterns of memory in the nervous system. Addiction often goes hand in hand with a myriad of automatic behavior over which the user has very little control.

Loss of Control

We, as addicts, often cannot determine how much of a substance we will use. In the rooms of Alcoholics Anonymous there is a saying that comes down to the fact that one drink is never enough – once we start engaging in the behavior we often find we cannot stop.

There is almost no doubt that this could be the result of impaired brain function and memory.

Substance use can often impair judgment and affect decision making.

Continued use despite negative consequences

Often an addict will find that the pleasure or relief derived from their usage of the drug outweighs the negative consequences of their use.

We are often blissfully unaware of the negative consequences of our behavior even though it negatively affects our careers, relationships and health.

It is usually keenly felt by those around us. Addictive behavior is almost always self-destructive and leads to the deterioration of ones quality of life.

Once again, the twelve step fellowships have a cliche that applies – continued drug or alcohol abuse will eventually lead to jail, institutions or death.

This last C – continued use despite negative consequences – is possibly one of the most distinct characteristics of addiction along with craving, tolerance and withdrawal.

Tolerance and Withdrawal

Tolerance and withdrawal are two sides of the same coin – both urging the user to use more. Tolerance builds over time and forces the addict to use more of the substance or engage in more of the same behavior to experience the same relief or reward.

Withdrawal on the other side is what keeps the user from getting clean. As soon as the effects of the drug subside, and because the body has adapted to the drug, negative symptoms present themselves to signal the absolute need for the substance. The withdrawal symptoms are often severely unpleasant and can be life threatening if left untreated.

It is important to detox under medical supervision, and withdrawal from certain substances might require medication under certain circumstances.

Luckily there is hope, and we never have to go through these things alone.

If you or a loved one are struggling with addiction – if you have been experimenting and notice any of the above traits in your life or in the behavior of a loved one, or if you relate with what you just read, please consider reaching out by sending an email to andre@adlabuschagne.co.za and we will assist you with finding an option that works for you.

The Twelve Steps: A Powerful Tool

The Twelve Steps: A Powerful Tool

The Twelve Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous has been around for decades and has helped millions of people in their journey of recovery from addiction and compulsive behaviour towards some sort of stability and sometimes even complete remission. Studies have shown that the program of Alcoholics Anonymous is at the very least as effective as other forms of therapy (like Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and Motivational Enhancement Therapy), but for the most part seems to be more effective – leading to more alcoholics and addicts being abstinent for longer periods of time.

Widely misunderstood by the church, sometimes even completely dismissed, this program has a lot to offer as a therapeutic intervention but also as a support program for deliverance and pastoral ministries.

The program – all twelve steps – are built around a foundational belief that the only way you can kick your addiction is by submitting to a force greater than yourself.

When the program was started in the 1930’s there was no doubt that it was a Christian program. Although secularized in the name of inclusivity, the program remains true to concept and has a high success rate. Coupled with our hope in Christ, rather than an anonymous ‘higher power’, I have seen lives changed in ways I couldn’t even begin to explain.

It can be applied to any addiction – narcotics, alcohol, pornography, sex, gambling and shopping – or even compulsive behaviors and mental health issues.

It provides a simple set of guidelines that we can use as a road map on our healing journey from chaos back to order.

The Twelve Step Program is outlined in the book Alcoholics Anonymous (originally published in 1939). It is found at the beginning of the chapter “How It Works”.

The Twelve Steps are:

  1. We admitted we were powerless over alcohol — that our lives had become unmanageable.
  2. Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.
  3. Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.
  4. Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.
  5. Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.
  6. Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.
  7. Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings.
  8. Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.
  9. Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.
  10. Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.
  11. Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out.
  12. Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these Steps, we tried to carry this message to alcoholics, and to practice these principles in all our affairs.

The program has a strong emphasis on prayer and fellowship – and the groups are free, with the only cost being your willingness to participate. The meetings are easy to find and listed online according to country, city and even suburb.

A final question I would like to answer here is whether or not Christians should attend these meetings. I have referred many addicts to these meetings, and some have been put off by the phrase ‘Higher Power’ or ‘God of your own understanding’. I want to urge you to not let this stand in your way. God wants us to be free. 

Surely we don’t avoid taking crucial medication (like heart medication or insulin) because the prescribing doctor is a Muslim or a Jew? These meetings are a life-line for those struggling with addiction and I believe that the Divine Wisdom of God is there between the lines. For any Christian going through these kinds of issues I would suggest a two-pronged approach – throw yourself into fellowship at church, but also join one of these support groups. We need as much support as possible in this specific journey. If the secular side of these meetings really are an obstacle to you personally, please consider one of the Christian fellowships instead – but do not push it aside altogether.

As a Christian and a minister of the Gospel I believe that this is an invaluable tool for those suffering from addiction, but also for the families of those who are struggling with addiction to drugs or alcohol. 

The thing that has kept me clean for nearly a decade at time of writing is something someone said at one of the early meetings I attended. Just before praying together we stood in a circle holding hands, and a fellow addict said: “we stand this way to remind ourselves that we never need to stand alone again unless we choose to…”

You are not alone. You don’t have to go through it alone.

There are Christian alternatives to the traditional AA, CA and NA meetings (eg. Celebrate Recovery), and I would urge you to find a support group near you – it saved my life. It can do the same for you.

If you would like help in deciding where to go or how to get sober – I am always just an email away. Reach out by sending me a message to andre@adlabuschagne.co.za.

God bless you and keep you. May He shine His face upon you and grant you the peace that you need today!

IF YOU OR A LOVED ONE ARE STRUGGLING WITH ADDICTION PLEASE REACH OUT: 065 370 3806 / ANDRE@ADLABUSCHAGNE.CO.ZA. #YOUARENOTALONE

 

This is Our God: Those Walls Called Sin And Shame

This is Our God: Those Walls Called Sin And Shame

“Remember those walls that we called sin and shame?
They were like prisons that we couldn’t escape
But He came, and He died, and He rose
Those walls are rubble now”

This is our God, Phil Wickham

“The Spirit of the Sovereign Lord is on me,
because the Lord has anointed me
to proclaim good news to the poor.
He has sent me to bind up the brokenhearted,
to proclaim freedom for the captives
and release from darkness for the prisoners…”

Isaiah 61:1, NIV

Good news.

Much of the Bible is about the good news of the Kingdom come.

This is the Gospel. That Jesus came to give hope to the hopeless, show the Father to the orphan, bind up the broken hearted, proclaim freedom for the captives and our release from the darkness of our sin and shame.

Shame is probably one of the most vicious, heaviest chains we carry.

Shame is the very definition of a vicious cycle. Not only is it rooted in sin – both sins committed by and against us – but it also inevitably becomes the root of further sin as we dig the hole in our hearts deeper.

I need you to realize today that you can be a model Christian and live a near perfect life, especially in the eyes of others, and yet be struggling with some aspect of your ‘private life’. You can be a good, Jesus-loving, God-fearing Christian, and still have a room in your heart that you have not yet surrendered to Christ.

It took me years to finally let go of the shame of my addiction, and it might not be easy for you either – but there is hope. As you build your prayer life… As you read about Jesus… As you allow the Holy Spirit to breathe life into the text of the Bible and let the Word come alive in you… As you surrender that room in your heart to God and let Him in you will find that there is no condemnation for those who are in Christ, but instead a superior hope, a peace that surpasses understanding and a joy unspeakable and full of glory.

The solution to every sin-problem and shame-condition is the unconditional and absolute love of God found in Jesus Christ.

I want to urge you to let Jesus into that area of your life where you are experiencing shame and hurt. Whether that shame was caused through something you did or something that was done to you – there is healing in Jesus.

Don’t let shame force you to live a life of fear, insecurity and hopelessness.

There is hope. There is Jesus.

You are loved. You are His. He loves you and He will never stop, no matter what!

Prayer: Lord, help me today to see the areas of my life where shame has a hold of me. Help me see the vicious cycles in my life for what they are. Where they might feel never-ending, where it might feel like I am perpetually going in circles, help me see that You are the Way, the Truth and the Life. You are my way out of this slow of despondency. You are my way out of the cycle of shame. Help me, Lord, to see that I am not who my shame says I am, but rather who You say I am. I am loved. I am Yours. Help me recognize the areas of my life where I need to repent. Come into my heart Lord and rearrange my furniture. Come and show me what I need to keep doing and what it is I need to stop doing so that You may be glorified in my life. In the Mighty Name of Jesus. Amen.

Never Lost: Worship Devotional

Never Lost: Worship Devotional

Psalm 116:1-2:

“I love the Lord, because He has heard
My voice and my supplications.
Because He has inclined His ear to me,
Therefore I will call upon Him as long as I live.”

Israel – throughout the Old Testament – suffered many trials and tribulations, fought many wars, endured famine, nakedness, captivity and sword… But God prevailed – He heard them every time they called. He never lost a battle.

I have had situations in my life where everything seemed impossible – where the waves seemed to overwhelm, the tempest raging around me.

I have had circumstances in my life that can’t be shared here, because it is not for the faint of heart – but the long and short of it is that I should have been dead. I could’ve, if it weren’t for the grace of God, easily been in an early grave.

I have seen, in my short life time, miracles upon miracles – I have seen debts being cancelled, families restored, bones straightened, tumours shrink – I have seen, through the power of a humble, earnest prayer (no shouting, no big words, no theatrics) a man on his deathbed restored to life.

And these are just the testimonies in my own life and the lives of those closest to me- miracles of provision, miracles of healing, miracles of restoration – there are a few of them happening around me right now.

Jesus said, in a conversation with His disciples: “With man this is impossible, but with God all things are possible.” (Matthew 19)

Job declares the following in Job 42, after the Lord confronts his unbelief and ignorance:

2 “I know that you can do all things;
no purpose of yours can be thwarted.

3 You asked, ‘Who is this that obscures my plans without knowledge?’
Surely I spoke of things I did not understand,
things too wonderful for me to know.

It is easy for us to react to our circumstances from a place of doubt and ignorance – when the waves obscure our vision, it is simpler for feet to fail and the soul to sink.

And perhaps now you are going through the tempest, through the fire, through the storm – perhaps you are facing the collapse of your business, the breakdown of your family unit or marriage, or a problem with your health – but I am here to encourage you to worship in the midst of this storm – to set your eyes upon the author and the finisher of our faith – turn your eyes upon Jesus.

One of the first passages of scripture I ever memorised and committed to heart was Psalm 27. This was my first step towards understanding the Bible in context rather than just having a loose collection of disjointed verses and declarations. I was thirteen years old, and remember reciting it whenever I had an opportunity.

At that stage I was being relentlessly bullied at school because of my club foot (I would actually leave school at the beginning of my second year of highschool because of the bullying). I did not fit in – I was different. And the only comfort I really had was in these verses:

“1 The Lord is my light and my salvation—
whom shall I fear?
The Lord is the stronghold of my life—
of whom shall I be afraid?

2 When the wicked advance against me
to devour me,
it is my enemies and my foes
who will stumble and fall.

3 Though an army besiege me,
my heart will not fear;
though war break out against me,
even then I will be confident.

It might feel like a war has broken out against you. I have my fair share of battle scars – and I can tell you that the enemy has never prevailed – Jesus has never lost a battle!

In my addiction – God won the battle!

In the wake and aftermath of a toxic marriage and divorce – God won the battle!

In my depression and anxiety – God won the battle!

Every time a war breaks out around me the Lord prepares a table, even in the face of the enemy, even in the midst of the battlefield – and tells me to come and be still. He raises His banner. He fights for me.

I hear the words of encouragement Moses speaks to the Israelites: “The Lord will fight for you; you need only to be still” (Exodus 14:14)

The Lord is our Light, He is our Salvation – and He is the Stronghold – the Strong Tower in which we find shelter from the storm.

He is our Defender and He is our Warrior King – the One Who Goes Before – and makes straight the way before us.

He has never lost a battle. Your situation, your circumstances, your diagnosis might seem impossible to man – but with God all things are possible!

He is setting a table for you today, in the midst of the battle and in the face of your enemies – He is giving you a front row seat for the victory to come.

He has never lost a battle and He never will.

Prayer: Lord, I declare today that You are the stronghold of my life. You are my light and my salvation. I declare today that You are the Mighty One who saves – and because of this I will fear no evil. Every enemy will stumble and fall in the mighty name of Jesus. I declare today that You are my victory. You set a table for me even in the face of my enemies – and I will rest and trust in You. You will fight for me. Your ways are higher, Your plans are better – I surrender to Your will for my life. I will trust You in the heat of the battle. I will be still and know You are God. You are my Victory. And I praise You, not only for what You have done, but also for what I know You are going to do. In the mighty name of Jesus. Amen.

My Chains Are Gone

My Chains Are Gone

My chains are gone, I’ve been set freeMy God, my Savior has ransomed meAnd like a flood His mercy reignsUnending loveAmazing grace

Amazing Grace (My Chains Are Gone), Chris Tomlin

“He brought them out of darkness, the utter darkness, and broke away their chains.”

Psalm 107:14

Speaking about the thorn in his flesh, Paul writes the following in 2 Corinthians 12:

9 But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me. 10 That is why, for Christ’s sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong.”

A little over 8 years ago I was living a double life. I was a youth pastor and worship leader, but also a drug addict and alcoholic. I had my own thorn in my flesh.

All of this culminated in me ending up on the cold, concrete floor of the local jail.

I was arrested twice in that time – once by the local authorities – and after that by the grace and mercy of our God.

It was in that time that I encountered God like never before.

I have become increasingly grateful for His mercy and grace. Grace is often defined as ‘getting what you did not deserve’. Mercy on the other hand is ‘not getting what you DO deserve’.

The fact that I fully deserved the judgement, not only of man and the legal system, but also the judgement of God Almighty – but was given mercy instead – causes me to tremble. Leaves me astonished.

When I think of the times I should’ve died – near overdoses, hanging out with guns and gangsters, bad batches and bad friends – I am grateful to be alive today.

8 years ago today I stepped into my last ‘first’ 12 Step Meeting. I had relapsed the day before (after stringing together +/- 3 months of sobriety and narrowly escaping a 6 month prison sentence I still had not learnt my lesson), but had returned to the fold again – this time taking that first step on purpose.

That meeting ended with a prayer. Just before the prayer we all stood holding hands in a circle, and someone said: “We stand this way to remind ourselves we need never stand alone again, unless we choose to…”

These words have kept me clean. 

I know that my life has not been ideal – that I have not lived a perfect life – but I am grateful that God never let go of me, and that even throughout my addiction, even throughout my clinical depression, mental illness, physical infirmity and moments of doubt and fear I have always found shelter in Him. I had to go through darkness – even though I have served Him (even in my addiction, with all my flaws and failures, I was faithful and committed) just over 2 decades – to know the fullness of His grace and mercy. The fact that even at my darkest He saw me. Even at my lowest He loved me. And He NEVER LET GO. He promised us: “I will never leave or forsake you – I will never let you be alone!”

Just like He promised Joshua: ‘Be strong and of good courage, I am with you!” He is with you!

I am writing this post for the families of the addicted. There is hope. Your husband, wife, daughter, son, brother, sister – they can recover! They can still come home! No matter how far they may have strayed.

Finally and foremostly I am writing this post to carry the message of hope to the still suffering addict and alcoholic – to carry the light back into darkness and call more of the suffering, broken and weary back home.

Jesus says: come to me all who are weary and burdened and I will give you rest. (Matt 11:28-30)

If you are sick and tired of being sick and tired, if you are broken and weary, if you are still suffering in silence – know that you are not alone.

If you have a problem with drugs or alcohol – so did I.

Come fall before the mercy and grace of Jesus. Let His love flood Your soul.

And if you ever need a friend, come lean on me.

I am writing this for you. You are not alone. We will love you until you learn to love yourself. You don’t ever need to be alone again.

Prayer: Thank You Lord that I am not alone in my trials and my tribulations. Thank You Lord that You hear me when I call and that those who put their trust in You have never been put to shame. You are the chain breaker. You are the miracle worker. And I thank You Lord that You are working freedom in my life today. I thank You that You are silencing the voices of fear and insecurity, and that I will hear the tender whispers of Your heart today. Remind me today, Lord, of the places I have been and help me be a faithful witness of Your love, grace and mercy to those who are still going through their storms. In Jesus name. Amen.